- did patrick have a girlfriend around this time last year? if so, what was her name? were they living together? any info is helpful.
- just to clarify, pete and patrick do both live in LA, right? fairly close to each other? and pete was living with ashlee at this time?
if you have links to any primers/manifestos for them, that would be helpful too. i haven't written any of it yet, but this bit came to me in the car this morning and it made me smile, which is really something for me right now:
sad!nostalgic!pete: *sighs; snuggles up to pat* remember when we were young?
tolerant!patient!patrick: *smirk* i remember when i was young. you were never young.
and then a convo about how jailbaity patrick was (15 or 16 when he joined the band) and how pete was already old and creepy and stuff. so i'm looking forward to it.
completely unrelated: one hole i've noticed so far in this whole zen thing... and i'm sure there are answers for this, but i haven't gotten to them yet, i guess: it's about learning the willingness to be in the moment, whatever the moment is, to accept it and embrace it as your path. but. where is the balance? like, say a woman is in a relationship where her husband comes home drunk and beats her up every night? is she supposed to say, "well, this is my path, so i accept it." extreme example, obviously, but where is the line? like, i get that using all your control strategies to try to change your life to your expectations is bad, because it won't give you the fulfillment you want and just end up frustrating you in the end, but when is it all right to say, "i don't want my life this way, so i'm going to change it"? how do you know when it's healthier to do that than just say, "i accept this as it is"? this is one thing i'm very fuzzy on. discuss?