You really shouldn't beat yourself up for things you haven't done (yet) that you want to do. People do things at different times of their lives. They achieve things at different stages; maybe there is a reason why success eludes them until later in life? Someone might write a great novel/song at 20, but then there are people that don't do it till they are much older. I really believe it's never too late to follow your dreams. If I believed that I would have given up on everything years ago. I'm setting myself goals now that are do-able, if I'd set those goals a few years, even a year ago, I would have failed and then felt even worse about myself. Sometimes you just have to wait until the time is right for you, the individual, to do that something. There are times when what we want has to be put to one side, so we can be there for others, maybe to build on a relationship or to take care of someone. Priorities change throughout life, they have to, but it doesn't mean you have to forget your dreams. I agree with so much of what you're saying, but then you talk as if your life is over. You're 25! You have so much time to do whatever you want. You can still play music, you can still write. Maybe the experiences you've had over the last 10 years is what will make your 'whatever' great. Maybe you weren't ready before, maybe you still aren't? Grasp your dreams, bb, they're yours, don't give up on them :) You can still conquer, you just have to find that power and strength inside you and believe in yourself. I do. I thought a lot about what you've said and I questioned whether I felt this way because I'm even older than you, but I know I'm not making excuses or hiding from my life outside the window, you know how lj helped me through a terrible time, I've made some wonderful friends, some I hope I've been able to help and some that have helped me; I don't think spending a few hours writing a silly fic for someone to cheer them up or to make them laugh or think or connect is a waste of my time. If I was spending all day on here then that would be different, surely it's all about balance? You can be content but still want to achieve things, it's like being secure in the knowledge that you have a roof over your head, but wanting to change the decor.
I hope at least a bit of that makes sense, you know my tendency to ramble... You know where I am if you want to chat ;)
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Date: 2008-11-24 06:26 pm (UTC)I really believe it's never too late to follow your dreams. If I believed that I would have given up on everything years ago.
I'm setting myself goals now that are do-able, if I'd set those goals a few years, even a year ago, I would have failed and then felt even worse about myself. Sometimes you just have to wait until the time is right for you, the individual, to do that something. There are times when what we want has to be put to one side, so we can be there for others, maybe to build on a relationship or to take care of someone. Priorities change throughout life, they have to, but it doesn't mean you have to forget your dreams.
I agree with so much of what you're saying, but then you talk as if your life is over. You're 25! You have so much time to do whatever you want. You can still play music, you can still write. Maybe the experiences you've had over the last 10 years is what will make your 'whatever' great. Maybe you weren't ready before, maybe you still aren't? Grasp your dreams, bb, they're yours, don't give up on them :) You can still conquer, you just have to find that power and strength inside you and believe in yourself. I do.
I thought a lot about what you've said and I questioned whether I felt this way because I'm even older than you, but I know I'm not making excuses or hiding from my life outside the window, you know how lj helped me through a terrible time, I've made some wonderful friends, some I hope I've been able to help and some that have helped me; I don't think spending a few hours writing a silly fic for someone to cheer them up or to make them laugh or think or connect is a waste of my time. If I was spending all day on here then that would be different, surely it's all about balance? You can be content but still want to achieve things, it's like being secure in the knowledge that you have a roof over your head, but wanting to change the decor.
I hope at least a bit of that makes sense, you know my tendency to ramble...
You know where I am if you want to chat ;)